Nothing keeps us more entertained than the drama between singer Jose Chameleone’s Wife Daniella Atim and her in – laws .When they strike ,we are entertained.
It should be remembered last month, Daniella came out blaming her mother – in- law for her children’s bad behaviours towards women .
This time out Daniella has publicly disclosed the struggles she had with her in- laws regarding the upbringing of her children .
According to the scathing message she shared on her Instagram ,the mother of five disclosed that she was forced to stop her kids from visiting their paternal grand parents when there are not in her company stating that she never wanted her kids getting certain ideas in their heads.
That when she felt in love with Chameleone was rosy until when time came to have kids.
She further noted that she remembers meeting Chameleone’s family and her in- laws demanding for their first born to be a boy since a boy child sealed a man’s status in society.
That after months of praying ,fasting and tithe she gave birth to Abba and later another son and then the in- laws wanted a girl child.
And it’s time round when she felt that she was being hard done by with the standards that had been set by her in- laws and she began to develop a tough skin.
” I remember all the tingles I felt when I fell in love, I couldn’t wait to have kids with the person I loved. I had met his family and most of his friends, his parents told me they wanted a”boy child” as a first child (even though this sounded very impolite tomy ears).
I was in love and I embarked on a journey to seek out and cry to God to give me a son as my first child.
I fasted for a son, I offered tithe for a son and I even went as far as making a pact with God. I told him, “God if you give me a son for my first child, I will ensure that he serves you.” Of course I had a son. God gave me the son I wanted and we gave him just the perfect name Abba.
I was smart enough to know that it didn’t matter what gender my child was but here I had fallen in love with a man from a very traditional family. To them a boy child sealed a man’s status in society and now it was my duty to do that. And then had a second son and even a third son.
And this time they moved goal posts, they wanted a girl but trust me by this time I had started to outgrow the standards they had set for me as their son’s wife.
I was done walking on egg shells and I wanted the courageous girl Fr John raised to come out of her shell. I wanted to be the brave, principled girl everyone refered to me as. It was time to start living the values Fr John had instilled in us; HUMBLE and FIERCE.
I immediately stopped my kids from visiting their paternal grand parents if I was not in their company. I did not want my kids getting certain ideas in their heads.
I became the VILLAIN who was the topic of discussion in family WhatsApp groups but secretly I was thumping my chest in victory. I had won this battle and I could raise my kids as they kept pointing fingers.
Alba was born, she was an instant sunshine. My in-laws were excited but by this time they already knew not to make tasteless comments around me. The warrior in me had woken up and has never gone to sleep since then.
Anyway, National Daughter’s Day was a few days ago but in our home it is children’s day everyday,. We celebrate the biggest gift God has given humanity…LIFE!